The importance of children in my life

Today my wife told me she will bring back my son and daughter to her hometown and asked me to join them 1 days before they are due to fly back. This is due to the fact I want to travel along with my whole family (wife and kids). I felt like the whole world has crashed on me and I hope the whole just swallow me up.

To me, the most joyful thing after a day of hard work and stressful day at work is to hug your children and play with them. I understand that my kids will not be with me forever, but if one is in my shoe, you can't even look ahead for 1 week, so why worry about the future? Maybe one may think, it's just a week. But currently with all events that happen in my life, the only comfort I can find is my 2 kids and Buddhism. Each time I went to temple to pray, it gives me a sense of calmness and I felt at peace with myself. Similarly when playing with my kids, I feel very at ease. They are so innocent.

But I told myself, I have to face each adversity with determination and never give up. It is easier than done. Maybe I am too emotional and I placed too much emphasis 'in another person' shoe. I just hope my parents and my wife can stay peacefully under 1 roof. Each time my parents only come 1 - 2 months. I am very sad. I tried to be a filial son, but I fail. I failed to support my parents and failed to give them happiness. I really wish I could do either one. At this moment, my hands are tied.

Other people may said, why I sad? There is no death, serious sickness, accident in my family. But whatever happened in my family, it is just as bad. It is difficult to write in writings. Maybe God can see my problem from the sky. But I am sure there are more suffering in this world, especially those who die, lost their family, relative and friends through the natural disaster, poverty, etc. If God is helping them first, I really do not mind. They deserve more help.

Everybody got their problem. Buddha said all beings will suffer from birth old sickness and death. Other sufferings can be as bad. I just wish mine can be over as soon as possible.

Jack Neo saga

Everyone in Singapore should surely heard at least part of Jack Neo stories. From a famous guy, he will surely become more famous, for the wrong reason. My mum told me 2 senior citizen had a heated discussion on who is at fault. Ironically, an old man thought Jack Neo is at fault while another old woman thought the mistress is at fault. Therefore, we can safely eliminate sexist biasness.



Personally, and quite clearly, both Jack and the mistresses are at fault. And the victims are Jack's wife and the 4 kids. Well, is it easy to judge the situation from a third party point of view. Like I said in my blog on Tiger Woods affair, it all remain to be seen if Jack is really sorry for this transgression. George Yeo is too soon to rush into comment that everyone must rally around Jack Neo and his family. Would he do the same if this guy is not Jack Neo? What kind of family values George Yeo is promoting? I hope he realize that if the affairs is not with just one, two women, there are so many women who are involved. Could this be just a moment of foolishness? Also, aren't Singapore government is trying so hard to protect minors from sexual advances from guys? Haven't we heard that Jack actually asked the french student wait for her at hotels?

I have to say I am a big fan of Jack Neo movies. He is a really creative director. His movies really reflects our society today which I suppose attracts many viewers because it is as if some part of our lifes are mentioned in the movie.

What I could do is I assume Jack is really sorry. Every human makes mistake. The press should really leave his family alone, if they are really sincerely in helping his family. Since his wife already forgave him, so should his sons and daughter. Let them move on.

Chile earth quake and Tsunami

I have read with sadness that the mother nature has unleased its fury again on Chile less than 2 months of Haiti earth quake. It is another moment of sadness. For the past 2 days, I chanted Compassionate Sutra and dedicated the merit to the people of Chile. Normally I would have dedicated the merit to happiness, safety, peaceful for my entire family. But surely the victims of Chile needed more compassionate help than I do.

I have just read from the newspaper that people who stayed in the Pacific Ocean coast continue to enjoy their life at the beaches despite the Tsunami warning. I total agree with the scientist to issue major Tsunami warning to the states. This is because life are valuable and should not be taken for granted. If I were the scientist, I would also do the same. They are trying to save life. If the Tsunami is smaller than expected, then everybody should be relieve as there is no life loss and property damage are very limited. Afterall, it is a 8.8 earth quake. Next time if the same happen (which I hope not for many years to come), I hope scientist continue to be conservative in protecting living being. Of course being accurate in prediction makes a scientist famous but morally it is more noble to use the position which millions of people in the Pacific coast entrusted with to take care of their life. Also next time, I hope people take the warning more seriously. Even those who do not care for their life, they should care for the love ones feelings. The love ones will suffer in sorrow when one dies.

Meanwhile, I hope anyone who read my blog, please offer your sincere prayer and assistance to the victims of earth quake in Chile and Haiti.